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How To Effectively Approach & Seduce Any Girl

Posted on 25. Jul, 2009 by Conrad Dixon in Seduction

Ok, Its about time I gave you some concrete advice on how to go from meeting a girl to having sex with her… and make her your girlfriend. Within the seduction community, there are several step-by-step “how to” formulas to go from initially meeting a girl to eventually having her in bed… the following is my own formula.

What I’m about to give you is my interpretation of how I go about approaching women and effectively taking her home at the end of the night. It certainly isn’t an EXACT formula, but it’s a starting ground for you to understand how a successful seduction works over the course of a night.

This is a formula that I’ve come up with from going out every weekend for several years on end. The following information applies to approaching random women at bars and nightclubs during the night… but the same formula can be adapted to meeting women during the day.

So, without further ado here is the step-by-step formula:

1. Approach

So you’re at the bar with your mates, and you’re there to meet women. Well, the first and foremost thing that you must do is approach women and open up a conversation.

At the end of the day, there are various different ways to open a conversation with a girl, but for now, just understand that you must first approach women and say something. This is of vast importance… if you don’t approach, you don’t play. You can read all the information you want, but if you don’t approach the girl, you won’t get her. The biggest problem that most guys run into is that THEY DON’T APPROACH… in fact, over 90% of guys don’t approach. And when I say “approach women”, in order to gain consistant improvement, you should be looking at approaching at least 3 to 5 women a day… the question is, how badly do you want a girlfriend?

So what should you say in order to start a conversation once you’ve approached her? Well at the end of the day, it doesn’t really matter what you say, but there are “pre-scripted” things that you can memorise in order to make things easy.  I’ve already written several posts on this topic, and the very next post will be covering this exact topic so watch out for it.

2. Attract

After approaching comes attract. Straight after approaching a girl or group of girls, you want to create enough attraction so that you reach whats known as the “hook point”.

The Hook Point is where you’ve created enough attraction for the girls to like you enough to not mind if you stay. You can think of reaching Hook Point as “getting your foot in the door” so to speak, and so it’s not that big a deal.

The thing is, creating attraction is NOT ROCKET SCIENCE… and reaching hook point isn’t hard either. When it comes to reaching Hook Point, we’re not talking about creating SO much attraction that the girls are madly in love with you (that comes later)… but the objective here is to create just enough attraction so that the girls enjoy your company.

So how long does it take to reach hook point?

The answer is, not long at all… its usually within the first 2 minutes of conversation. At the end of the day, women will decide if you’re someone they can sleep with within the first 30 seconds of meeting you.

When I say that creating attraction isn’t rocket science,  all a guy has to do to create attraction is:

1. Look his best
2. Give off a dominant vibe (vocal projection & tone, stance, body language, etc.)
3. Throw out a few witty, teasing or funny lines & responses.

3. Vibe

After the first two steps, you’ve managed to engage a girl or girls into a conversation and have them enjoy your company (for now at least).

The next step is VIBE, or better known as vibing. Think of vibing as “high-flying conversation”… where all you’re doing is using conversation to create a fun and enjoyable atmosphere or “vibe” with the person you’re talking to. Think of vibing as ordinary conversation but with emotional stimulation.

You may remember from a previous article where I talked about Emotional Communication - the language of emotional stimulation. Emotional Communication is what you use when you’re vibing.

To give a concrete example of what “vibing” is… think back to a time when you had fun with your mates… by doing nothing but talking. What were you doing? Well, let me tell you… you were joking around, poking fun at each other, “shooting the shit” as they say. THIS is what “vibing” is.

In further articles to come, I will give you examples of how vibing works with a girl.

The whole point of vibing with a girl is to reach Cling Point. This  is where you’re providing so much fun and emotional stimulation that for the time being, the girl discards ALL other possiblities of other potential partners… and chooses YOU as THE ONE. It is called the “Cling Point” because this is where the girls literally clings to you… you could say that she’s in love with you… FOR THE MOMENT.

4. Bounce

Once you have reached “Cling Point” with a girl, the next step is the Bounce. And no, “Bounce” does not mean bouncing the girl like a basketball… to bounce or bouncing is the act of moving from bar to bar (described as “bouncing” from bar to bar). So, to “bounce” a girl basically means taking her with you to different locations throughout the night such as to a different bar or nightclub, getting something to eat, back to your place for a party, etc. You can also “bounce” a girl within a bar or nightclub… for example from upstairs to downstairs or vis versa.

The whole reason for bouncing a girl is because the act of going to different places together actually DISTORTS time… and for her, it creates a false sense of having known you for a long time. So, when you take a girl to two or three different locations throughout an evening, afterwards she will feel like you guys have been friends for a lot longer than you have.

You must understand that in order to be able to bounce a girl to a difference location, you must first reach “Cling Point”… because by reaching Cling Point, she will “cling” to you and will be willing to go with you.

If you initially approached a group of girls, you will need to “bounce” the whole group which actually is not as difficult as it sounds… but in order to do so, you will need to befriend the whole group first.

If the group you approached is fairly large, what will typically happen is that the girl you have attracted will invite you along with them, which is fantastic.

5. Isolate

After the Bounce comes Isolate, which is the act of isolating the girl… or in other words, ”getting her alone”. In order to get sexual with a girl, getting her alone to a more intimate location is VITAL. When I say “intimate location”, it could mean on a couch at the bar, on your bed at home or anywhere else where you can be comfortable, close to her and have an intimate conversation.

You will typically always find women at bars and nightclubs hanging around with at least one other friend… hardly ever are they alone.

The reason why getting her alone is vital is because a girl will feel UNCOMFORTABLE getting sexual in front of her friends in fear of being labeled “slutty” or “horny”. By getting her alone, it will make it that much easier to make-out with her, get her thinking about sex (which is the next step) and making plans for her to come home with you.

If you initially approached a girl that was by herself, then obviously there will be no need to isolate her, though in such case you would still want to extract her to a more intimate location.

Sometimes even if she was with her friends, the girl will choose to isolate herself from her friends just to be with you, or her friends will choose to allow to you to be alone with her… either way, you really need to befriend her friends first.

Working alone at the bar in order to approach groups of women can be an ordeal if you have no one helping you… this is where the “wingman” comes in.

The true purpose of having a wingman is so that once you have engaged a group of two women, you wingman can “occupy” one of the friends while you isolate the other friend for a more intimate conversation. When you are opening a group of two women alone… if can be difficult to isolate just the one girl while the other girl hangs out by herself (but there are tactics to get around problem).

6. Sexualize

Sexualize is the sixth and final step. Once you have isolated her, it will be time to sexualize. Most people think that in order to “seduce” a girl, it’s all about doing nothing but getting sexual… well nothing could be further from the truth. In reality, seduction doesn’t work that way. How seduction works is that a girl must first be ATTRACTED to you and TRUST you before she is willing to get SEXUAL with you.

As you may have guessed, the first 5 steps are all about building ATTRACTION and TRUST. The easiest way to look at it is that you must first become her FRIEND and POTENTIAL PARTNER before becoming her LOVER.

What you’ll find is that if you’ve played it well and you’ve created significant attraction with a girl, SHE will voluntarily start sexualizing the conversation or allude to her having sex with you.

In order to get sexual with a girl and make her horny, the easiest and best way to do this is to literally introduce sexual words into the conversation. What happens when you introduce sexual words is that the girl will start THINKING of sex. You don’t have to allude to “you having sex with her”, nor does she have to accept or agree with what you say sexually … all you have to do is refer to sex in the conversation, and it will make her think of having it.

The whole point of the Sexualize step is basically to get the girl READY to go home with you, and if you have done things correctly, you will be able invite for home and let it lead to sex.

In further posts to come, I will explain each and ever step in greater detail.

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Tags: Attraction, Seduction, Vibing